One of the reasons my thoughts needed to be penned down was to try become a better parent. I am anxious, impatient and have a short temper. Early on in life I had realized that these qualities are not very desirable. But I have inherited then and live with them. Children are images of their parents. They not only have the genes but also observe us and then copy us. And that is the reason, I want to improve my temperament - to raise a happy, good tempered, peaceful child. In an effort to do this I decided to categorize the events by Where and Who. Where has the incident occurred and who is involved.
1. Where - is it an incident at home, at work, or anywhere outside.
2. Who - are the people involved family members, friends, coworkers or outsiders.
2. Who - are the people involved family members, friends, coworkers or outsiders.
Many times we are more tolerant towards outsiders than our own family and then we hurt our own people more than we think. Our own family is very close to us and we take more liberty, we expect more from them. We love them so much and that is why we have to be more forgiving and understand why someone did what they did.
This of corse does not apply to outsiders. Most of the people we come across in unpleasant situations, we will almost never meet them again. So why give them and the situation any importance at all. It is not worth the mental peace. Even though I don't give this much importance, I have lost my temper while driving only to realize and repent later for doing it in front of my son. He is observing everything I do, and may think it is OK to do this. And for his sake I have to control my temper.
Overall, as a mother, I will do anything needed to make my son a better person. And one of the things for this is to control my emotions and temper.
It shouldn't be that hard anyways!
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